Decisions in Childbirth

Decisions in Labor

May 3, 2020  |  baby, birth doula, childbirth, labor
pregnant couple

Nurses and doctors are in out.  Cords are all over the place keeping an eye on you and baby making their sounds.    Lots of questions are occuring and decisions need to be during various parts of your labor.  Sometimes all of this can be a little overwhelming and you are not sure what to do.

Your input and being heard make a big difference in the satisfaction you will feel from your birth story later on.   One of the things to keep in mind during all of this, is this an emergency?  If it is not, then you have a moment to think and its okay to say let me think about this for a moment and get back to you.   

During these moments, you can use your B.R.A.I.N to go through the decision process to figure out what is right for you. 

Benefits:

B stands for benefits. A question you may ask for benefits could be “How would this be helpful?”.  You medical team will then explain what the benefits of this option will be.

 

Risks:

R stands for risks. You may ask your care provider “What goes along with this?” or simply “What are the risks of this procedure?”. 

 

Alternatives:

 
A stands for alternatives. This is an important question to ask because this is when you learn what options you have. 
 

Intuition:

I stands for intuition. At this point you and your partner should check in with yourselves and each other to see what your gut is saying. It might be helpful to ask for five or ten minutes alone to talk and express yourselves freely. 

 

Nothing / Negotiations:

N stands for doing nothing or negotiations. Now that you’ve had a moment to take in all the information you’ve gathered, this is the moment where you can decide you want to wait on making a decision until something else happens or doing nothing at all if you dont feel its necessary.   You and your care provider can also negotiate a decision that is as close to a win-win as possible by discussing all the options and reaching a decision together that you are both comfortable with.  

Conclusion:

If they are not rushing a decision and telling you that they need a decision right in that moment, then it is not an emergency.  You have time to make a decision.   Take a moment to make sure that you have made the right decision for your family - its your birth story.

Thinking you want someone in the room with you that can help support your decisions?

If you are in the Cincinnati or Dayton, Ohio area – look no further.  Tamara Kankowski is a certified birth and postpartum doula as well as a childbirth educator.   Tamara provides support to families everyday across the region. Tamara has an affordable birth doula package that includes personalized support during your pregnancy, labor and delivery that continues through your first eight weeks postpartum.

Want to find a Doula?

If you are in the Cincinnati or Dayton, Ohio area – look no further.  Tamara Kankowski is a certified birth and postpartum doula as well as a childbirth educator.   Tamara provides support to families everyday across the region. Tamara has an affordable birth doula package that includes personalized support during your pregnancy, labor and delivery that continues through your first eight weeks postpartum.  Contact Tamara today to set up a free consultation!

If you are outside the area, DoulaMatch.net is a great resource to find doulas in your area or go online and see if there are Meet the Doula events near you!